This is a list of helpful books for learning about your relationship with conflict and how to work with it.
Nonviolent Communication: A language of life by Marshall Rosenberg
Everything is Workable by Diane Musho Hamilton
Collaborating with the Enemy by Adam Kahane
How to Fight by Thich Nhat Hanh
The Whole Brain Child by Dr Tina Payne Bryson and Dan Siegel
Daring Greatly by Brene Brown
Most of these are available from the following non-Amazon retailers: